It's been a while since I've written on here, but that's partially because I've been battling migraine and loneliness lately. ED the whole time has been trying to get me to do this or do that, undereat or overeat. I've fought him off so far, though. Instead of listening to ED, I've read in my OA book, reached out to others (no matter how hard it was to do) including calling at least one person from OA.
OA has been a teacher for sure. The folks there have been so helpful. I've started journaling again, only I call it (as they called it) the letter to God. As part of the journaling I've also started to do 10 gratitudes, which reminds me that no matter how rough or how bleak my day has been, there are always things to be grateful for.
I've started to meditate more often, which started with the one meeting. The meditation can be as simple as just letting the thoughts flow through my mind and not paying attention to them, but paying attention to other things around me as I'm walking. I've gotten great pictures of baby deer and flowers this way and it puts me more at peace, helping to ease tension.
After hearing the definition of abstinent to be abstinent from the compulsive over (or for me over OR under) eating behaviors or anything that would trigger those behaviors and another definition being that abstinent means sticking to the food plan, I've started making a food plan. It really helps me to find that middle ground, and once I find a sponsor, I'll share the food plan with her/him and that'll help keep me accountable. I've also given up chocolate, and although it's hard, with the support of the OA folks, I know I can do it. I need to give it up for my health (migraine) and because it's a huge trigger food that is the most likely to send me into a binge.
Doing the meal plans has been such a blessing. I only do it one day in advance and I do try to think of the food groups, so while I may not be eating necessarily the amount given by the food pyramid, I'm trying my best to come close. I won't be perfect, especially as I'm doing this without a nutritionist, but all I can do is do my best. I do allow for substitutions and migraine is the most common offender for that, since it may mean I have to order in due to not being able to cook, or doing a simple meal instead of a bigger one. Some do meal plans by writing how much of what group they'll do, for me, I write the specific food. It helps guarantee that I'll eat (that and the accountability to the folks of OA). I've spent a few years learning what a normal portion was (with some help from WebMD and other health sites) for eyeballing it, or will go by something like 1-2 bowls of soup is normal.
I've also started reading the dailies in one of the books and used that to ponder over...so often, it ends up being just what I need for that day. Combined with Jenni Schaefer's books, I'm doing a little better.
I guess the key for me is balance, balancing migraine with recovery, balancing meal plans and OA meetings with fun outside. Making me time to meditate, even if it's while on an errand for work, or going to/from work. Journaling even if it's just over the course of a day. Making sure to reach out when I need to, no matter how hard it is. Reading when I need to and sometimes when I don't want to (catching the loneliness chapter in Jenni's book DURING and not after it had passed would have been good, if only I had gone with what I NEEDED to do and read the book). And so my lessons in balance continue....I must remember that GRAY IS OK!
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